Happy New Year!!

Welcome 2014!!

Melissa here. As most of you know, Henning has spent the last three months in the states with me. As you also know, I was booted out of Denmark, so our situation has been complicated by not only health issues but logistical issues, as well.

I have been busy making a new life in NH, while Henning has been figuring out home hemodialysis in Denmark. We had planned on his being able to travel with the NxStage System One (the only portable home dialysis machine) but due to tons of red tape and a complete lack of urgency of his care team, time was ticking away, and away, and away.

Thanks to NxStage and HDU (courtesy of Rich Berkowitz) Henning was able to travel to the US for a conference in October. He was officially invited by HDU, and Rich gave us tons of advice and lots of pushing in the right direction. NxStage stepped up and got on board, as Henning is the first Scandinavian and only one of a handful of Europeans on home dialysis to travel to the US, and perhaps the only one to do so for  such an extended visit. This is a Very Big Deal, medically speaking.

Thanks to some sponsorship, good connections and a lot of great timing, Henning’s visit has been relatively drama-free. He did have some access issues at first. In Florida at the conference, it was getting pretty urgent as he was unable to dialyze for nearly three days. That’s a lot of days. NOT good. But due to some great support, material, emotional and physical, from NxStage staff, he was able to finally get a good cleaning and we had a great time, over all. I’ll post more about the conference now that I will have some free time to really work on my backlogged posting.

Once we were back in NH, access issues continued to be a problem. Thankfully we have great support here as well, again thanks to NxStage finding a local doctor willing to work with them and Henning. International prescription and care issues continue to be a problem with home hemo users and international travel. His doc did a scan and discovered Henning’s venus access site was about 1/4″ away from the actual fistula. Again, NOT GOOD. And… also… no great surprise. I’ve said it before and I’m sure I’ll say it again, Henning’s care in Denmark is sub-par, and that’s the most flattering comment I can make.

Once Henning established a new access, he’s had no further access issues. In fact, dialysis has been pretty boringly unremarkable, and that’s GOOD.

We have visited some great friends, had some great dinners out, done too much shopping, and spent too much money in the three months he’s been here. We took the girls to New York City the weekend before Christmas, and that was quite an adventure! The girls had never been, and it was great seeing the city fresh from their points of view. Neither Henning nor I had been to the City during the holidays, and we did have a few cranky moments in the crush of Times Square, but otherwise we had a blast. We walked over 120 blocks, and checked off almost everything on our “If you could only spend one day in NYC what would you do” list.

We had a quiet Thanksgiving and Christmas and spent lots of time with the girls. Our oldest lives next door to us, so spending time with her, her fiance and our grandson is always fun!! Megan and Larry are getting married on New Year’s Eve, so I’m thrilled that Henning will be able to be here for that.

We are sad to see his time here end. He goes back to Denmark on January 6th. So we have just a few more days together, this time around. We are already planning the next visit sometime in the spring.

Look for more posts as we catch up after a few months of just reveling in each other’s company.

We are launching a new site, as well. This page has served it’s purpose and while we have not yet decided what to do with it, we have decided, in light of all of our recent adventures and media attention (due to Henning’s astonishing journey and medical status) that this was a little too… little. Look for KidneyNerd.com, coming soon.

Happy New Year!!

The second surgery in a week…

…actually happened.

It was at the other hospital (Herlev, as opposed to Riget), so there was no food or fluid restriction. This surgery was for removing the acute catheter and replacing it with the permanent (still temporary, though) catheter. This one basically goes right to the heart the same as the acute, but not directly into the jugular at the neck. The access is behind the collar-bone and it is far less fragile, and less vulnerable to infection.

The surgery went well, and the doc did a great job at minimizing the amount of scarring and using minimal stitching. Henning complained a bit… the scars make him look like he was attacked by a vampire. Kind of cool… but few will ever see it, due to the doc’s great stitch-work…

So now this catheter is working great. He can even fully shower with it, which is fabulous. I am still leery of it. I can’t quite figure my reaction. I have changed many a bandage in my day, and after working as long as I did in both the nursing home and the hospital, you’d think nothing would throw me. In fact, I can witness anything… but I just can’t get a grip on my reaction to changing the plaster on this catheter. I don’t know if it is because it does go right to his heart, or because it is so vital to his health, or what. But in any case, Henning can do it himself, so it is not a huge deal that I can’t do it without getting cranky or some other inappropriate reaction… but it bothers me that it bothers me… which doesn’t really help at all.

Anyway, the day after the catheter surgery, we picked up my daughters from the airport and had a whirlwind two weeks seeing every sight Denmark has to offer in the winter, that we could get to and from in any given 7-hour day. The girls were astonished that it was only daylight for such a short time… lol

It was a fabulous visit, and too short. But we look forward to them coming this summer. Hopefully by then, we will have this round of endless surgery behind us, and if not dialyzing at home, be very close to that goal. The days will be longer too, and we won’t have to worry about blizzards at the zoo…

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Schedules and other oddities

We are not organized people. It’s not that we lack the capacity to maintain a schedule. We both have the knowledge. Henning has his teaching/conference schedule and his private practice, both of which need time management. I used to be a manager in many incarnations of my varied careers. I like to walk into chaos, and organize it. I’m really good at lists, plans, etc. HOWEVER… when it comes to private life, neither of us like the idea of having that time scheduled. It’s not that we lack the skill… just the will.

But that has all changed.

With dialysis three times a week at four hours a pop (MWF), doctor’s appointments, and of course, social engagements, on top of our regularly scheduled activities… we are getting into the swing of having a pretty rigid, detailed schedule… which is good, considering the weeks ahead. This coming week, for example, has two (yes, TWO) surgeries and… my kids are coming for the Christmas holiday. So… if any of you are wondering what we will be up to in the coming days, here’s a preview.

Today is a dialysis day, so that means 4 hours in the morning – which, really, goes until about 1pm… so saying morning is kind of silly. Dialysis is really the equivalent of adding a part-time job to the schedule. Today is also Henning’s last day with his long-term PT (she is moving to the mainland), so that got fit in right after dialysis. He also has an appt. this afternoon, so that means a full day of driving around, after the big D.

Henning is having surgery on his fistula Wednesday. This is minor surgery to tie off some veins near the site to force the fistula to mature faster. While this is a one-day, in-and-out visit, it takes up a lot of time because we have to do the admission paperwork 24 hours in advance. Plus, because the surgery is on Wednesday, that means rescheduling dialysis. Our regular unit at Herlev Hospital seems accommodating, but since the surgery is at Riget Hospital, he’ll dialyze there. In this case, he will dialyze on Tuesday afternoon, as they didn’t have a Wednesday spot available.. So that means two trips to the Kingdom (Riget Hospital) on Tuesday, and one on Wednesday.

He is then having surgery on Friday to insert a permanent catheter behind his collar-bone. The one in his neck is working great, but it is not a long-term solution. It is more vulnerable, and, honestly, a pain in the… well… you get it. Since we don’t know how long it will take for the fistula to mature, this is a better, longer-term option.

Again, this requires the paperwork to be done 24 hours in advance, but since this surgery is in our unit at Herlev, it is closer. Making daily trips is not such a big deal.  Also, again, the surgery is on a dialysis day, but since this is our unit, it is easier to re-schedule the dialysis… we hope.

And to top off a week of busy, busy, busy, my kids are coming this Saturday (yes, the day after surgery #2) to spend two weeks with us. We have a tentative schedule full of trips to the city, museums, Tivoli Gardens, Sweden to visit Henning’s dad… it’s NUTS!! (But in a good way) The girls are well prepared to suspend any and all activities depending on how Henning is feeling, or if something unexpected comes up. But regardless we will be pretty busy. We also have a trip to Immigration planned. It is that time… fingers crossed.

I think we may come up for air sometime in January…