Because saying how sick you are over and over again is draining and traumatizing, no matter how much you love the person on the other end of the phone, or in the grocery store, or at your mutual friend’s party… you get the idea.
When someone you care about is sick, you worry. You want information. You want contact. You want to know what is happening. Most of all, you just want to know that he or she is ok, at the moment. You ALSO want the person you care about to be a good correspondent.
When YOU are sick, dealing with the dramas of doctor appointments, tests, treatments, and generally feeling sick and tired, takes up all your energy. You just CAN’T be a good correspondent.
That is what this blog is all about. I hope it will be a space where Henning’s friends can come and get updates about his health, where he is with treatment, and basically have some reassurance- while at the same time freeing Henning from having to say the same things over and over again. Especially when they are not always good things.
Nothing takes the place of personal contact. But after a very bad treatment day, followed by many calls and texts from worried friends, that were largely ignored because neither of us had it in us to respond to each person, I said, “Enough is enough.” So if this works, great. If not, well… we’ll try something else.
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